The way in which a controlling relationship is defined has changed over the last few years. The definition of coercive control (see below) shows the subtle, repeated ways in which a partner can control their partner and the impact this can have.
I am often surprised at how often this type of controlling behaviour and pattern is described to me when new clients come to discuss the separation and divorce options available. I also have a great deal of respect for the clients who have managed to see that this behaviour is not right and identify the need to end that relationship.
If you would like to know more about the options, please do not hesitate to contact me for more information.
Coercive control only became a crime in 2015. It's defined as controlling behaviour that has a "serious effect" on a partner, causing them to fear violence at least twice or causing them serious distress. But as with many domestic violence crimes, the number of people going to prison is far lower than the number of people accused.